Hello friends! Hope you are all doing fine. Today we will shed light on an essential topic, how to develop positivity in children. Be good and stay good is all that everyone needs. As a parent, its our moral duty to bring in positive attitude amongst our young guns of the world.
Let’s pen down a few things that will help us in establishing happiness and right positive attitude in children.
· Children ape you all the time- Always remember that as parents, you are the role models for your children. They watch you to get clues on how to behave in the world. As we all know actions speak louder than words. Stay calm, cool and focused and instill the right behavior.
· Show your little one how you feel- Don’t simply scream, shout or yell on your child. Express how you felt on his particular behavior. E.g. You may say, I am feeling sad and upset because there is so much noise and I am not able to talk on the phone.
· Always praise your child for being good- If you really like the way your child behaved, simple words of appreciation will work wonders for your relationship with her. It will strengthen the bond and love between you and her. Try to say six positive comments (praise and encouragement) for every negative comment (criticisms and reprimands). The 6-1 ratio keeps things in balance. Remember that if children have a choice only between no attention or negative attention, they will seek out negative attention.
· Keep listening to your children- Always listen to your child. Children often tend to turn emotional or frustrated sooner than later. If you just try to listen to their problems, it helps them to get relief from their tensions and stress.
· Always keep promises- If you promised your child that you will go for a walk or probably play at the garden, after he completes his homework, please stay committed to what you promised.
· It is surprising how much your child is listening even though he might not have the social maturity to tell you. Nagging and criticising is boring for you and doesn’t work. Your child will just end up tuning you out and wonder why you get more upset.
· Kids don’t want to be annoying. By giving in when they’re whining for something, we train them to do it more – even if we don’t mean to. ‘No’ means ‘no’, not maybe, so don’t say it unless you mean it. If you say ‘no’ and then give in, children will be whining even more the next time, hoping to get lucky again.
Enjoy parenting and have a great time!!!